Oh, damn, this is getting ridiculous!:( Maybe it's just this one year you have to all go through, you know, walk through the fire and get purged, and then you'll be fine for a few decades! I hope at least your own health is holding, dammit! But that said: you can't carry the weight of the whole world on your shoulders, hon. As much as you want to have the power to just fix everything for everyone - you can't. Everyone's got their own destiny and the most you can do is to pray that everything works out for them. When a loss comes, we have to weather it, because it's not our personal failure of some sorts (some people treat it like this), but because none of us were meant to stay. If the worst happens, you have to be prepared and not react destructively towards yourself, but think of all the good they've done in their life and remember that it was a good one. For me it helps to believe that they're not really gone, they've only moved forward sooner than I did and once I do, we'll see each other again. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this to depress you or because I don't believe in your cousin's recovery, but because you need a coping mechanism of some sorts for the time when something is beyond your help and prayers. It's never beyond hope, just remember that. Stay strong and more embarrassing amounts of hugs!
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on 2015-05-08 08:19 am (UTC)But that said: you can't carry the weight of the whole world on your shoulders, hon. As much as you want to have the power to just fix everything for everyone - you can't. Everyone's got their own destiny and the most you can do is to pray that everything works out for them. When a loss comes, we have to weather it, because it's not our personal failure of some sorts (some people treat it like this), but because none of us were meant to stay. If the worst happens, you have to be prepared and not react destructively towards yourself, but think of all the good they've done in their life and remember that it was a good one. For me it helps to believe that they're not really gone, they've only moved forward sooner than I did and once I do, we'll see each other again.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this to depress you or because I don't believe in your cousin's recovery, but because you need a coping mechanism of some sorts for the time when something is beyond your help and prayers. It's never beyond hope, just remember that.
Stay strong and more embarrassing amounts of hugs!